|
|
Parenting from a distance
Article by Leonie Brasier
Sometimes after separation or divorce, parents find themselves living in different towns, states, or even countries to their children. This adds another level of complexity in maintaining relationships with them and in parenting from a distance.
Sometimes parents feel overwhelmed by the distance and query if it is worth it – would the child be better off just all ties? There are plenty of studies that say they would not be better off. Children have the right to know and be cared for by both parents. Hang in there. Even long distance you are still their parent and no matter where they live, they still need you and you need to know that they are loved and valued by you.
Depending on your child’s age, even when not living close geographically, there are different things you can do to build your relationship.
Some ideas are:
- Phone calls – Regular, frequent calls are best. Make sure they fit in with the kids’ routines, rather than disrupt homework or meal or bed times.
- Letters – Send stamped self addressed envelopes so your child can easily reply.
- Email and internet – If you don’t have a computer, you can access one for free a t local libraries or community centres.
- Audio and videotapes – Read your child’s favorite story onto tape for them to listen to again and again. Send videos of family, sporting events.
- Send small presents – Don’t be a “Santa” parent and try to buy love. Small thoughtful presents mean more. E.G; Books, ‘Collectables’ such as stamps, sports cards etc. Share and encourage your child’s interests. Little things that show you are thinking of them.
- Photos – Of you, them, all of you together, sharing good times.
These are just a few ideas. You and your children will be able to think of more ways in which you can package little bits of the everyday and keep the relationship strong between the face to face meetings.
Article by Leonie Brasier, Yarra Legal
|