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Emotional Freedom Technique
Trying to Move out, Move on & Move up!
When a child becomes an adult psychologically from the age of 15 years, it has spent it’s life imprinting off it’s parents and family, and then modeling them. After the age of 15 years, the child tries to ‘Move Out’ of the nest, ‘Move On’ with their individual life, and ‘Move Up’ life’s ladder of success, to have more, to do more and to be more. For some, these tasks are easy, they’re natural, for others, it is not natural at all, every step is frightening and unknown. Why is this so? I believe it is all to do with the Self Image and Beliefs that are created before the child turns 14 years of age.
A clarification I make is that; Your Self Image and Beliefs that were created in you are not your fault, nor is blame to be put on anyone else. In-fact, they are just there, and now as an adult, each and every person is responsible to re-create their own Self Image and Beliefs. This article will not be discussing how to re-create new Beliefs and a more useful Self Image, but it will be discussing this one point:
Even though your limiting Self Image or Beliefs are there in you, you are definitely not stuck with them.
So you find yourself in a relationship, that just doesn’t seem right for you, maybe you have changed (that is allowed you know), or maybe you just thought it would be different than it is. Maybe children are involved, maybe not. You are finding yourself dreaming of a different life than the one you have. The dreams give you pleasure, an escape from your reality, but then everything turns on you, and your dreams are trashed because all you can think about is all the things you cannot do. You start to feel fear and dread, your body may be reacting to these emotions, you may cry, you may feel sick, or weak. Whatever is happening to you, it is out of your control.
Now let me re-phrase that into ‘Coaching Talk’, I am going to explain what is happening with the conscious and sub-conscious mind, that we all have.
A person enters into a relationship commitment believing the best for the future. The beliefs that the person has are being adhered to, it could be the importance of having a life partner, marriage, money, the belief could be one of many things or a combination of them. So in the beginning, the sub-conscious mind (this is where all the beliefs are) is comfortable, it is happy with the choices made and actions taken by the conscious mind. All is well!!!!!
Then possibly one day, or over a series of events, the sub-conscious mind realises that it’s beliefs are not actually being adhered to. Now let me inform you that the partnership between the conscious mind and the sub-conscious mind is not at all equal. The Sub-conscious mind will always win! No two ways about it. Will-power is almost always not enough, because the sub-conscious mind is where all of your emotions live, and will-power cannot over-rule emotions no matter how strong it is.
So the person ‘feels’ trapped, stuck, dis-abled, angry, sad, disappointed, etc. Sometimes all at once, which can be so overwhelming, it is debilitating! And the conscious mind floats off into dreams of a better future. Let me now explain what happens while in this dream state. The conscious mind is driving the dream, and the sub-conscious mind takes a while to cotton-on to what is going on, when a thought is in the conscious mind for long enough (which is only 10 seconds) it is sent down into the sub-conscious to get the feelings attached to that thought. In the beginning the feelings are great, you may get a feeling of happiness, safety, love, comfort, power, etc. Until the Limiting Beliefs in your sub-conscious realise what you have sent down to meet with them. It is then that your Limiting Beliefs take hold and over power your conscious mind, changing your thoughts to the negative. These negative thoughts instantly attach to the Limiting Beliefs and the sub-conscious feels very comfortable again, making you feel absolutely horrid and desperate.
You see, while these Limiting Beliefs that make up your Self Image are armed and dangerous, you are not really free to dream of better things than what you actually have. You can dare to dream, but expect disappointment. A very sad state of affairs indeed. But there is a very simple solution!
What if, you could somehow get into your sub-conscious mind and dis-arm those Limiting Beliefs, what if, you could just identify them, and simply take away their weapons, slap them on the wrist and tell them to sit down and ‘shut up’ because you have things to do, and they are getting in the way?
Well you can do exactly that. Get yourself a Self-Image Coach who uses the technique of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). You will be helped to identify the Limiting Beliefs, and you will be taught the EFT technique to ‘dis-arm’ them one by one.
This will leave you with a better balance in you sub-conscious. Let me explain. Say you have 1000 beliefs, they are not all limiting, in fact some of them are essential to who you are. If 10 of the 1000 are negative but have huge power and the other 990 are small in power, both positive and negative. After dis-arming those 10 huge limiting beliefs, you are left with a level playing field. All 1000 will have the same power. Then you have the challenge of getting true balance by bumping up the number of positive beliefs in your sub-conscious, but that discussion is for the next article.
So take the plunge and get in-touch with the right coach for you. Step One Training and Education have a Self Image Coaching Service that does exactly what has been explained here. Feel free to contact Step One when you are ready to, dis-arm the Limiting Beliefs in you sub-conscious.
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