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Healing After Divorce
Start With A Clean Slate. One of the most healing things that you can do is to remove your ex's “stuff” from your life. Why not let him/her have their favorite recliner, especially if it was never to your liking. Give them all their memorabilia from high school, family, sports and hobbies. All these things really hold no meaning to you, and their presence can bring back painful memories. Start your new life with a clean slate.
Evaluate Your Friendships. Part of this process may mean re-inventing your friendships. Some of your married friends may not feel comfortable with you right now. It’s as if your divorce threatens to cause problems in their marriage. They may be jealous of your new found freedom. Try not to take offense. In time, they may come around to accepting the person you are now. Mean while, stick with the friends who willingly support your healing and are there for you when you need to rant, rave, and cry. Having a shoulder to lean on can save your sanity at times.
Joining a support group will give you the chance to talk to other people healing from the wounds of divorce. Having a support system can help you cope with the inevitable stress you will face. Take a look at the 'Get Prepared' section of www.i-dont.com.au to find support groups that can help when you are ready.
©Tracy Achen 2001
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